Category Archives: Strength

DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY

A useful hint….

Had one? A dysfunctional family/childhood I mean? You are not alone, definitely. Sometimes I try to find out, how many people I know, who had a so-called completely normal childhood….

Maybe it’s one of the criteria, according to which I select my circle of more interesting humans? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Intellectually, I can understand, how someone can tell me about being good friends with her mother and father. Or at least just having them… at the age of 40.

40? Emotionally, that’s completely outlandish for me.

I haven’t had a father since I was 8. Tragic? Possibly. Normal? Absolutely, for me. I don’t know anything else. So, how could I miss something unknown to me?

See?

Strange? Yes. Does it give me trouble? Let’s say there were also quite a few other components in this childhood and youth of mine, which I could call, hmmmm ok, let’s just call them intriguing.

Yes, and some of these elements I am still expressing in this process, which we usually call “personality”. And sometimes, that can be quite bothersome, to say the east.

And here’s a helpful hint. Sometimes, when you feel distressed about this, try a very weird thing: forgive yourself for your past.

WHAT??? Yes, I know you were a victim, etc. of course. Just, if some highly intelligent part of you is ready for just a tiny and very useful change, try it: forgive yourself for your past.

And…. let me know how this went!

IN THE DIFFICULT MOMENTS, HOW DO YOU MANAGE?

Is this easy for you to exist in difficult moments?
Are you one of these hardcore beings, who practices tough love on herself?
Do you think, you learn only by criticism?

Too much love and softness make you weak?
To succeed in this world, you cannot show weakness?

Success has its price. Show no helplessness, or the others will gobble you up?

And if you really think so, are you happy with this?

I mean, really happy? Deep down, and when no one can hear or see you,
then I mean, are you really, really happy?

Are you convinced that this is the reason why you are on this planet?
Why you have sensitive beings around you?

If this is really the case, then good luck…. especially in the last moments, that you inhabit this body, and in the first moments after leaving it.

In the moments, when you remember, that you are an eternal soul, who incarnated on this admittedly difficult plant with one main goal.
And this one main goal was to love others and help them. Not tough love. But love.

Maybe then you will also remember this post and ask yourself: why didn’t I listen, to this tiny, shy voice inside myself, who told me, to read this well?

Well, it’s never too late, and I do mean that.