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EXPECTED DEATH

When someone dies, the first thing to do is nothing.

Credit for the beautiful words ~ Sarah Kerr, Ritual Healing Practitioner and Death Doula

When someone dies, the first thing to do is nothing.

Don’t run out and call the nurse. Don’t pick up the phone. Take a deep breath and be present to the magnitude of the moment.

There’s a grace to being at the bedside of someone you love as they make their transition out of this world. At the moment they take their last breath, there’s an incredible sacredness in the space. The veil between the worlds opens.

We’re so unprepared and untrained in how to deal with death that sometimes a kind of panic response kicks in. “They’re dead!”

We knew they were going to die, so their being dead is not a surprise. It’s not a problem to be solved. It’s very sad, but it’s no cause to panic.

If anything, their death is cause to take a deep breath, to stop, and be really present to what’s happening. If you’re at home, maybe put on the kettle and make a cup of tea.

Sit at the bedside and just be present to the experience in the room. What’s happening for you? What might be happening for them? What other presences are here that might be supporting them on their way? Tune into all the beauty and magic.

Pausing gives your soul a chance to adjust, because no matter how prepared we are, a death is still a shock. If we kick right into “do” mode, and call 911, or call the hospice, we never get a chance to absorb the enormity of the event.

Give yourself five minutes or 10 minutes, or 15 minutes just to be. You’ll never get that time back again if you don’t take it now.

After that, do the smallest thing you can. Call the one person who needs to be called. Engage whatever systems need to be engaged, but engage them at the very most minimal level. Move really, really, really, slowly, because this is a period where it’s easy for body and soul to get separated.

Our bodies can gallop forwards, but sometimes our souls haven’t caught up. If you have an opportunity to be quiet and be present, take it. Accept and acclimatize and adjust to what’s happening. Then, as the train starts rolling, and all the things that happen after a death kick in, you’ll be better prepared.

You won’t get a chance to catch your breath later on. You need to do it now.

Being present in the moments after death is an incredible gift to yourself, it’s a gift to the people you’re with, and it’s a gift to the person who’s just died. They’re just a hair’s breath away. They’re just starting their new journey in the world without a body. If you keep a calm space around their body, and in the room, they’re launched in a more beautiful way. It’s a service to both sides of the veil.

DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY

A useful hint….

Had one? A dysfunctional family/childhood I mean? You are not alone, definitely. Sometimes I try to find out, how many people I know, who had a so-called completely normal childhood….

Maybe it’s one of the criteria, according to which I select my circle of more interesting humans? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Intellectually, I can understand, how someone can tell me about being good friends with her mother and father. Or at least just having them… at the age of 40.

40? Emotionally, that’s completely outlandish for me.

I haven’t had a father since I was 8. Tragic? Possibly. Normal? Absolutely, for me. I don’t know anything else. So, how could I miss something unknown to me?

See?

Strange? Yes. Does it give me trouble? Let’s say there were also quite a few other components in this childhood and youth of mine, which I could call, hmmmm ok, let’s just call them intriguing.

Yes, and some of these elements I am still expressing in this process, which we usually call “personality”. And sometimes, that can be quite bothersome, to say the east.

And here’s a helpful hint. Sometimes, when you feel distressed about this, try a very weird thing: forgive yourself for your past.

WHAT??? Yes, I know you were a victim, etc. of course. Just, if some highly intelligent part of you is ready for just a tiny and very useful change, try it: forgive yourself for your past.

And…. let me know how this went!

WHY ARE YOU WHO YOU ARE?

A stupid question isn’t it… Genetics and biography. Ok?

Bullsh………

Just for fun’s sake, consider yourself the result of very, very clever brainwashing… Yes.

Just think differently for a few moments.

How could this have happened?

A hint. I used to give little workshops about learning techniques for adults.
I always asked till when it was easy for them to learn, and when it became difficult. 

Think about that for a moment…… exactly, I guess, if you remember, you’ll give the same answer. 
Learning was easy until you started school.

When you just consider this simple fact, you might arrive at the following conclusion: but this is completely absurd!!And, yes, it is, indeed.
A human brain is a learning machine. To stop that, one has to do something awfully wrong.

Now, if you did not have enlightened, awakened, conscious parents, in a spiritual sense I mean, they surely did their best. They wanted to allow you to survive and maybe thrive, and maybe even be super successful in our society.

Possibly they succeeded.

I just have a tiny question: at what price? At what terrible price? Especially, if you climbed the corporate ladder, perhaps even broke through a glass ceiling, congratulations by the way, what price did you have to pay.

And, if you are just shaking your head now, and thank you for reading this far at least, you might belong to the 80% who have no conscious awareness about that.

Do you know the story about the work elephants in Thailand? When they are very young, they are chained to a mighty post anchored in the ground. Of course, they try to escape, try to lift the post with their trunk. But, the trunk is too strong, their trunk too weak.
So, after a certain time, they give up. Maybe they try again, but… the same story.

Now after a few years, it doesn’t matter at all, that they could rip out the post easily. They have given up. But have they? If you could ask them, they would say, no of course not, they just are intelligent and HAVE LEARNED, that it is impossible, that they are too weak.

It’s called depending on whom you ask, learning, conditioning, brainwashing, survival, necessity, adapting…… I think you do understand what I am saying there.

And now, I am going to test you…. I am going to repeat something from above:

Now, if you did not have enlightened, awakened, conscious parents, in a spiritual sense I mean, certainly they did their best. They wanted to allow you to survive and maybe thrive, and maybe even be super successful in our society.

Possibly they succeeded.

I just have a tiny question: at what price?

So, my question to you:
are you aware that you may have paid a terrible price?

And here is some good news. You, as we all, were trained. It’s also called a skill set.

That means who you „are“, for the most part, is an expression of habits. Of behavior, which was taught to you with whatever means „necessary“.

But. It’s only behavior. And behavior can be changed. Yep. It can. You may have to work for it, but it’s possible. If you want.

And……… I am here to help you.

How To Be Rich And Still Feel Happy

You have tons of money. Are you therefore happy? Or you have just a little, or not enough, does that make you unhappy. Or vice versa?

Well…. are you a victim? Or what kind of victim?

Let me tell you a little story:

This super MMA champion, who has never lost a fight, unarmed and dangerous, walks through a deserted street, in the middle of the night.

Suddenly she gets attacked by an inexperienced young man, a robber, about 13 years old, armed with a vicious knife, which he inexpertly wields….

Are you quite clear about how this is going to end? 

I am not… and why? 

The MMA champion is unarmed, yes, but very dangerous ONLY, if she applies her fighting skills. 

Which is a conscious or unconscious decision. If she does not, apply her skills, she is just an unarmed human, more or less helpless against a knife.

So, no one is dangerous, happy, or sad just like that.

We all have learned certain skill sets, quite often unconsciously, which we apply in life. And we mistake them for states, which they are not, and typically don’t realize that we DO something, which leads to certain feelings, hormonal changes, and perceptions….

  • we are not our breath, but we breathe
  • we are not our thoughts, but we think
  • we are not our feelings, but we feel
  • we are not happy, but we act in a certain way and define this as „being happy“, we “do happy”
  • we are not sad, but we act in a certain way and define this as „being sad“, we “do sad”

Ring any bells yet?

The challenge is, that most people think, that they don’t have a clue, about what they are doing. The great thing is, I can help you…

When are you going to do something about this?

DO YOU WANT ME TO SELL YOU COACHING?

If you are looking for a sales coach, yes, of course.
I would need to catch you with some state-of-the-art hard-core-selling, lots of clever ruses, pushing your pain points, invitations, steps to follow, honey for bees, sales funnels, etc…🌹

Only… I AM NO A SALES COACH!! What? No! 😱

I AM A SOUL COACH, A MIND COACH

Imagine, I attack you in the street, kick you in the belly, knock you out with an uppercut. Afterward, I introduce myself: “Hi, nice to meet you, I am your coach for peaceful communication”. Not very congruent, isn’t it.

So what am I supposed to do? Soul you coaching? Mind you coaching? 👀

Exactly….. So what are we going to do? 🥸

What do you need to know, to acknowledge your need for coaching?
And, once you have done that, how do you decide, whom to choose? 👁

Exactly. You decide. You have the ability. Not only that, but you have intuition. You know how. Maybe not consciously, yet, but subconsciously, yes, of course, certainly.😇

For example, you could create an intention by saying to yourself:
“Within 3 days I am going to know with certainty, whether this is the right time for coaching and I will also precisely know what kind.”
Be open for signs, hints, even or especially from unexpected sources.
And see what happens. You will be astonished. In a very good way! 🤓

It’s a big step sometimes, I know. The risk of detecting “better sides” of yourself. Not being willing or able to go back to being the “old you”.
What are your friends going to say? Your partner? Your close ones? 🤔

Imagine becoming more “conscious”, to start “waking up”.
And possibly changing your circle of friends?

Or not wanting to tolerate certain behaviors around you anymore?
Being bored with certain topics, with a certain way of life. 🙈

No, I am not selling you my coaching. I am warning you. Coaching works.
Coaching can be life-changing. Irreversibly. ❤️ ❤️ ❤️

So think well before deciding. Once you are clear and courageous enough, go for it. 🤩 🤩 🤩