Category Archives: Joy

SOMEONE WE LOVE VERY MUCH DIES

What gift does this person give us?

Have you ever experienced this? This really difficult situation?

How many things suddenly lose their value? No longer make any sense?

We feel so helpless?

Often the only thing we can do then is simply to be present.

And maybe we then learn that being “really” and “simply” present, for and with the other person, is not so easy and simple in reality. 

And in the moments when we manage to do that, we suddenly realise the enormous power in it.

Perhaps we realise that there are also completely “normal” times when we could practise this. And that these moments are of overwhelming importance.

In such moments we do more for our relationship than when we throw big gifts around, go into grandiose action.

Remember again what was suddenly unimportant at that time. 

I can tell you: if it was unimportant then, it is still unimportant now.

We can fill such things with importance again but would be a pity. 

A pity because this person showed us something. Namely, what is really important, what it is all about in this life.

There is the gift. Accept it.

DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILY

A useful hint….

Had one? A dysfunctional family/childhood I mean? You are not alone, definitely. Sometimes I try to find out, how many people I know, who had a so-called completely normal childhood….

Maybe it’s one of the criteria, according to which I select my circle of more interesting humans? 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Intellectually, I can understand, how someone can tell me about being good friends with her mother and father. Or at least just having them… at the age of 40.

40? Emotionally, that’s completely outlandish for me.

I haven’t had a father since I was 8. Tragic? Possibly. Normal? Absolutely, for me. I don’t know anything else. So, how could I miss something unknown to me?

See?

Strange? Yes. Does it give me trouble? Let’s say there were also quite a few other components in this childhood and youth of mine, which I could call, hmmmm ok, let’s just call them intriguing.

Yes, and some of these elements I am still expressing in this process, which we usually call “personality”. And sometimes, that can be quite bothersome, to say the east.

And here’s a helpful hint. Sometimes, when you feel distressed about this, try a very weird thing: forgive yourself for your past.

WHAT??? Yes, I know you were a victim, etc. of course. Just, if some highly intelligent part of you is ready for just a tiny and very useful change, try it: forgive yourself for your past.

And…. let me know how this went!

IN THE DIFFICULT MOMENTS, HOW DO YOU MANAGE?

Is this easy for you to exist in difficult moments?
Are you one of these hardcore beings, who practices tough love on herself?
Do you think, you learn only by criticism?

Too much love and softness make you weak?
To succeed in this world, you cannot show weakness?

Success has its price. Show no helplessness, or the others will gobble you up?

And if you really think so, are you happy with this?

I mean, really happy? Deep down, and when no one can hear or see you,
then I mean, are you really, really happy?

Are you convinced that this is the reason why you are on this planet?
Why you have sensitive beings around you?

If this is really the case, then good luck…. especially in the last moments, that you inhabit this body, and in the first moments after leaving it.

In the moments, when you remember, that you are an eternal soul, who incarnated on this admittedly difficult plant with one main goal.
And this one main goal was to love others and help them. Not tough love. But love.

Maybe then you will also remember this post and ask yourself: why didn’t I listen, to this tiny, shy voice inside myself, who told me, to read this well?

Well, it’s never too late, and I do mean that.

How To Be Rich And Still Feel Happy

You have tons of money. Are you therefore happy? Or you have just a little, or not enough, does that make you unhappy. Or vice versa?

Well…. are you a victim? Or what kind of victim?

Let me tell you a little story:

This super MMA champion, who has never lost a fight, unarmed and dangerous, walks through a deserted street, in the middle of the night.

Suddenly she gets attacked by an inexperienced young man, a robber, about 13 years old, armed with a vicious knife, which he inexpertly wields….

Are you quite clear about how this is going to end? 

I am not… and why? 

The MMA champion is unarmed, yes, but very dangerous ONLY, if she applies her fighting skills. 

Which is a conscious or unconscious decision. If she does not, apply her skills, she is just an unarmed human, more or less helpless against a knife.

So, no one is dangerous, happy, or sad just like that.

We all have learned certain skill sets, quite often unconsciously, which we apply in life. And we mistake them for states, which they are not, and typically don’t realize that we DO something, which leads to certain feelings, hormonal changes, and perceptions….

  • we are not our breath, but we breathe
  • we are not our thoughts, but we think
  • we are not our feelings, but we feel
  • we are not happy, but we act in a certain way and define this as „being happy“, we “do happy”
  • we are not sad, but we act in a certain way and define this as „being sad“, we “do sad”

Ring any bells yet?

The challenge is, that most people think, that they don’t have a clue, about what they are doing. The great thing is, I can help you…

When are you going to do something about this?