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EXPECTED DEATH

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When someone dies, the first thing to do is nothing.

Credit for the beautiful words ~ Sarah Kerr, Ritual Healing Practitioner and Death Doula

When someone dies, the first thing to do is nothing.

Don’t run out and call the nurse. Don’t pick up the phone. Take a deep breath and be present to the magnitude of the moment.

There’s a grace to being at the bedside of someone you love as they make their transition out of this world. At the moment they take their last breath, there’s an incredible sacredness in the space. The veil between the worlds opens.

We’re so unprepared and untrained in how to deal with death that sometimes a kind of panic response kicks in. “They’re dead!”

We knew they were going to die, so their being dead is not a surprise. It’s not a problem to be solved. It’s very sad, but it’s no cause to panic.

If anything, their death is cause to take a deep breath, to stop, and be really present to what’s happening. If you’re at home, maybe put on the kettle and make a cup of tea.

Sit at the bedside and just be present to the experience in the room. What’s happening for you? What might be happening for them? What other presences are here that might be supporting them on their way? Tune into all the beauty and magic.

Pausing gives your soul a chance to adjust, because no matter how prepared we are, a death is still a shock. If we kick right into “do” mode, and call 911, or call the hospice, we never get a chance to absorb the enormity of the event.

Give yourself five minutes or 10 minutes, or 15 minutes just to be. You’ll never get that time back again if you don’t take it now.

After that, do the smallest thing you can. Call the one person who needs to be called. Engage whatever systems need to be engaged, but engage them at the very most minimal level. Move really, really, really, slowly, because this is a period where it’s easy for body and soul to get separated.

Our bodies can gallop forwards, but sometimes our souls haven’t caught up. If you have an opportunity to be quiet and be present, take it. Accept and acclimatize and adjust to what’s happening. Then, as the train starts rolling, and all the things that happen after a death kick in, you’ll be better prepared.

You won’t get a chance to catch your breath later on. You need to do it now.

Being present in the moments after death is an incredible gift to yourself, it’s a gift to the people you’re with, and it’s a gift to the person who’s just died. They’re just a hair’s breath away. They’re just starting their new journey in the world without a body. If you keep a calm space around their body, and in the room, they’re launched in a more beautiful way. It’s a service to both sides of the veil.

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ARE YOU AFRAID OF DYING?

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No? Congratulations. You are more awake and aware than many other people.

But you are afraid? Why? Who taught you that? Think about it carefully, it’s worth it.

Who could be interested in the fact that you are afraid of it? Who benefits from it? Who does it give power to?

There are thousands of well-documented reports about death experiences. And if you read them, it becomes very difficult to justify the fear of death.

There is, of course, an enormous opposition to it on the church and scientific side.

Again the question: why should something not be valid that has been experienced by thousands of intelligent, educated people? That is clearly documented and confirmed by many different sources again and again?

The thesis seems to be that only what is approved by a white apron or laboratory coat may be valid.  According to the motto, what must not be, cannot be. Except for surgeons. Sometimes they are a bit more open, as they are precision engineers. But normally, the testimony of “laypeople” just doesn’t count.

Embarrassingly, there are also “experts” who have had such experiences and confirm them. But don’t worry, they don’t count in this case either.

Again the question: cui bono? Who does it serve? Consider how certain things would have gone the last two years if mankind were more awake. Had accepted death as part of our journey. Not associated fear with it. Looked forward to it positively.

What would change in certain sectors of the economy? Who would lose power?

How would we treat each other differently?

Think about it. Talk about it with others. Dare to think in new ways. It’s worth it.

And…. let me know what you have learned.

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WHEN I WAS 36 YEARS OLD, MY VERY BEST FRIEND DIED

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And she taught me a lot. As my father committed suicide, when I was quite young, I had to occupy myself with this matter of dying quite early and intensely.

So, in the last few weeks of her life in this body, I visited her daily in the hospital, and honestly, it was quite exhausting and horribly sad.

One day I was home preparing my lunch and getting ready to go to the hospital afterward.
I felt very bad. Tired, desperate, angry, miserable…..

And then suddenly she appeared before my inner eye. At first, she was laughing at me, and then, she even became a bit angry.

We have worked so much on our spiritual development,” she told me, “and now you make such a fuss!

And disappeared. My world changed, from one second to the next.

All my bad feelings dissolved and what remained was a relaxed calm.

I went to the hospital and remained in this relaxed mood. I could even exchange jokes with others who were there. I just was present and tried to help her let go, using hypnosis and visualization, as best as I could. And it was the same, on all the following visits.

I was not here the moment she died, but her sister-in-law and her brother were present. They called me immediately, and I was there within 20 minutes.

And I saw that she had not “died” at all. What I saw there, was the body of an old woman. But “she”, her essence, was not there anymore. She had just left her body. That was all.

The manner of death doesn’t matter.

If you have lost someone by suicide, I can assure you, what remains is just a body. When we “die”, we leave it just as we take off our clothes before going to bed. Nothing less, and nothing more.

Have you lost someone by suicide? I offer the appropriate coaching.

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About Karma

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How exactly is it with this karma? The matter came up through a post on LinkedIn. 

The question was whether it is the instigators or the performers who reap worse or more bad karma?

There seems to be an “expert opinion” that says it is the doers. Interesting.

My experience shows otherwise. The instigators indirectly cause suffering to those affected. The perpetrators simply do it more directly.

And yes, every being is responsible for its actions.
But the instigators also cause suffering to the perpetrators.
Because they motivate them to do “bad” things.

BUT IS THAT THE RIGHT QUESTION?

When a being is awake/conscious or at least working towards it, something is important above all. What is the direction of its actions? What is the intention behind it?

AND THAT IS THE WAY